My Friendship is a Gift
I have met some pretty incredible students. One in particular traveled through the world with an energy of self-confidence, self-respect, and self-assurance. Everything she needed was already within her. She kept a few close friends, but was friendly toward everyone. She accepted everyone for their victories and short-comings. She knew quite clearly all that she needed to be satisfied.
I was not only impressed... I was amazed.
She was the inspiration for this lesson. So much of our own struggle is born out of expectations we fabricate. This is especially true when it comes to friendships. We need to stop looking at friendship as something as a necessity for validation and fulfillment, but instead, value all the kinds of relationships that give us life while we choose where we put our friendship energy carefully. Friends will come and go - we will grow and our friendship needs will change. Taking the pressure off that natural progression is our choice, especially in the quick-shifting community of elementary school.
Being friends with me rocks. We should all feel that way. We all have special qualities that we bring to our friendships that make time together fun, regenerative, and exciting. People who do not treat my friendship like it is special simply should be reconsidered. Feel power from giving yourself carefully away to only those who fill you up and cherish your qualities. Anything less than that should be unacceptable.
Consider how unkind actions from others can be re-framed as less of an attack and more of a return.
"Thank you for returning my gift - there is someone else who I think its really going to love it."