There are so many times I see a situation starting to unravel and I wish I had a quick teaching tool to help me. This is the perfect "grab and go" strategy!
On a clean sheet of paper, I can draw a flow chart for exactly the situation that is causing a student to have an extreme emotional reaction. Before damage is done to the community or the relationships inside it, I can use the flow chart to tell the future of a student's choice. Many times, students don't realize that they have control over the situation and the rest of their day.
These are the two examples of flow charts provided in the lesson plan on the Resources page. They are not perfect. The reality of your classroom may look quite different than the scenarios in the example, and the consequences may play out differently depending on the particular student.
Notice - scenario 2 provides a "advocate" option. I have recently read the article "Mindful of Equity" from the Southern Poverty Law Center which challenges how we think about calm coping.
We don't want a future population who is so good at calm and coping that we don't have bold advocates to make big changes to our broken systems. Part of our responsibility is teaching kids how to advocate against things that are unequal or unjust. Of course, part of the issue involves teaching children when to cope and when to advocate. This is sticky. Be mindful when a child could advocate rather than just comply. Offer help in making constructive steps towards changing systems that don't work for them. Frequently consider how advocacy can have more of a place in your problem solving. Check out the bottom of the Resources page for that full article from SPLC.
Scenario 2 -